My German Boyfriend :)

I have been browsing the web and came across some websites on peoples opinions of German men. Everything seems to be so negative . German men according to theses opinions are a bunch of humorless, nagful ,cheap and controlling blokes.

I am an African- American Bolivian woman  and am currently dating  a German man who must be that one in a million awesome guy. He is very goal oriented and definietly not controlling. If anything I am treated like a queen. He cooks me dinner , cleans , takes me out , plans weekend get aways, and  listens to what I have to say .

I am not doubting the validity of these opinions but it really had me shocked. I do agree that maybe German men don't go on an all out rampage to pursue a woman. But that shouldn't discourage you, times are different and if that is something that you want then go out and get it.


 Upon meeting my  boyfriend for the first time he was shy and quiet. I just spoke to him like normal and just kept true to myself which in the end I believe is what made me more attractive to him and had him hooked.  ( we are complete opposites but in our case opposites attract)


There have been a couple of occasions when I wasn't happy with some things and all it took was to simply address the problem. He was quick to make things better and to work on whatever needed to be fixed. I must admit there are some things that I am not use to but that is to be expected when dealing with anyone, regardless if they are foreigners or not.
     
For instance , I find it a little weird how its perfectly OK to hang out with your best-friend's girlfriend without the friend , or go to dinner, walks by a lake at sunset and hanging at their place with their friend who happens to be a girl. I think its a bit much and I would technically call that a date. But knowing who my boyfriend is , he is not that type of guy to make things seem more than what they are. 

5.Mar.2005 - 12:06 hrs

I did have a long term German BF, and he was extremely jealous. I couldn't talk to a man, even just a stranger to say hello, without him flipping out. We lived together for about a month, til I moved out, and left a message on his answer machine. And the Sex was all about him! Kept hoping he would get better. Left very disappointed!

In my case , he is definitely not the jealous type and I guess thats because of the great trust we have in each other. But I find it hard to believe he wouldn't get jealous but I guess we will never find that out.  ;)  (oh and the sex: no comment  :) hehehehe) I am happy.


I have also come across many comments on how German men would be the most happiest  if woman did all of the cleaning. Ha! I believe my boyfriend sees more to me than just a "cleaning maid". And if he did  he probably  lost that thought the moment he met me. Although I am a pretty clean and neat person , I rather do things together than to be expected  to do all of the work.


 I feel very well respected as a woman in his eyes and I love the fact that we can talk and learn from each other all the time. Despite his busy schedule and the long distance in between we find ways to make each other smile.  

 3.Mar.2005 - 14:22 hrs

Yes, this is what I mean as well. On the one hand they enjoy the emancipation bit in the sense that we earn our own money AND still do the cooking and cleaning, but on the other hand they don't treat their women like women or in a courteous way. They also seem to all turn pretty pale the moment you mention the topic "children". Then it's "let's-get-out-of-here-time". This I have encountered so often with them! I have been living in Germany for very long already.. I otherwise really like them.

About the topic of children and marriage , I really can't comment on that we still have tons of time before that topic of  conversation comes up. 




Despite the many opinions about German men it all comes down to :
1. Being yourself
2. Understanding each other's differences
3. Open communication 
4. Establishing a good friendship before anything
and 
5. Patience 


I love my German and I feel like the most luckiest woman who has the best of the best.
Will be in his arms in 20 days.

http://www.toytowngermany.com/lofi/index.php/t13695.html

OMG! I want to cut my knee off.

Its been a week since my ACL surgery and I feel like ripping my leg out. I can't take this anymore,  I have completely been relying on everyone else and I cant stand it.
But , at least I have an excuse for staying in bed all day watching movies , and downloading complete series of shows to keep me entertained throughout the day.
Any suggestion of what else I should illegally download?

Can a guy and girl truly just be friends?

I wonder the answer to this question. A part of me wants to say: Yes, of course. Mainly because I have plenty of guy friends with whom it’s just friendship. But another part of me is screaming: No! I find it that in some cases no matter how much you hang out with your friend it will always remain 'just friends'. Then there’s always that one exception to the rule where the more they hang out and do things together , feelings starts to develop whether they wanted it or not. Sometimes it just sneaks up on you and the next thing you realize is that your into your “friend”.

Some may disagree with me but does this situation become different when one of them is in a relationship already?

Say you’re the girl/boyfriend of the one with the ‘good friend’ of the opposite sex or same.

It’s not a matter of lack in trust in your significant other. But something, about their friendship just gets to you and you don’t want to complain because you clearly understand that their relationship as friends has been established before you came into the picture

How should one approach this? When is hanging out too much? Do things change because you’re in a relationship?

Lirum Liarum

So bored at work , there is barely anything to do and i am sitting here pretending to be busy. The one time I am excited to answer the phone and deal with annoying students and their questions.

4 hr and 11 mins to go. Then off to meet up with my amazing boo, Lina. BFFL

Long time no See

"Hello Blog"

Its been awhile since I wrote on my blog. I guess I just been busy and ever since Harry left I really have been keeping myself busy. I  miss my sexy , awesomest boyfriend . It would be for another 10 months till I see him but i know when I do it will be worth the wait. I didn't think that during the two months my Germans were here I would fall in love with one of them. He stole my heart away and now all i eat , breath , think and dream about it him. This long distance thing is going to work , I am praying for the best.

Today i started my internship and they did say the first couple of days it will be boring. And boy was it boring. I had to alphabetize these documents and come Wednesday I am going to have to input them into an excel spread sheet. Ugh! I guess everyone has to start somewhere.

Life overall is great , I can't complain.  Will try to keep up with the blogging.

b-day

Happy Birthday 2 ME!!!! I am 22 today. 

 first day of another 365-day journey around the sun. Enjoying the ride with awesome friends and family. ~Because time itself is like a spiral, something special happens on your birthday each year: The same energy that God invested in you at birth is present once again. ~Menachem Mendel Schneerson

V-day weekend

 Don't know where to begin . I had an Amazing weekend. Arrived into NY on Thursday and met up with Harry like always. This weekend was a quiet one didn't really want to be apart of the bar scene. Instead we went to a BBQ restaurant with Phillipp and his cousins, Alex and Mimi, Christoph, Harry and I. It was good food but i to full to eat anymore. Then we headed to the movies where we watched " Up in the Air". Its about George Clooney starring as Ryan Bingham , a business man on the verge of reaching ten million frequent flyer miles when his company decided to cut back on travel . But his goal isn't the only thing just out of reach: he now won't be able to see a fellow frequent traveler , who has caught his eye.


Then on Saturday it was another quiet day for us . Harry came over and I made him dinner while enjoying the movie FIGHT CLUB right from my couch. :) 
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VALENTINES DAY!!

Had an amazing Valentines day with Harry. It started out with us exchanging gifts. He made me a brownie cake ( that tasted awesome) , a beautiful single rose and he took one of our favorite photo made it bigger and placed it into a nice wooden frame for me. I gave him a chocolate rose along with this kind note jar thingy that I  put together. Filled with a mini teddy bear, chocolates and little messages.

We then headed off to the Cornerstone to meet up with Christoph  had a few beers to kill some time before our dinner reservation. He made reservations at this Greek restaurant called Ethos. They had a fixed menu for valentines day already but it was good. We had grilled shrimp , grilled octopus, lamb chops, mousaka ( Greek lasagna), salad and some Greek dessert. Everything was great but we quickly found out that Greek beer is Rubbish! lol

Overall it was a great weekend. 

Snow Day

Today , classes were cancelled and we just got an email saying that they are cancelled as well tomorrow. I am excited but today I was in a lot of pain. I think something might be wrong with my appendix but since this morning the pain as slightly subsided. 

If the pain gets any worse, to the hospital i will go. 

UGH! 

Right now I am in my bed watching DVD's with my room mate and trying to feel better.

I really don't have much to say 

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Ok so my room mate and I decided to go shovel my car out of the snow ....with our bare hands because we couldn't find a shovel any where and apparently no one owns one. lol 

YAY! SNOW

We are being let go from work early  so that everyone can get home safely and classes are cancelled tomorrow. This is good and Bad news. The Good thing is that : NO CLASSES. The bad news is that : I normally don't have classes on Wednesdays and we lose a day for our v-day fundraiser. UGH!

Trying to make a profit !

Currently I am at work doing nothing productive , obviously. Its very laid back today mainly because students aren't showing up with problems.

Going to go back and pretend to do work now. 

hehehehe!

This is what happens after attempting to do Micromatics

So the ladies and I have finally lost our minds.....dam POLICY

Just set up my blog to work with my cell.

sitting here

Class let out an hour early and now I am sitting here just thinking , listening to Audioslave ( Be yourself) and on my blog.

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Do you ever find yourself feeling not know what you want?

I found myself not wanting to do the relationship thing and therefore broke it off with my ex. How can i commit when I am not 100% sure of what i want? Then after that these awesome guys are walking into my life. Guys on a whole different level , goal oriented, passionate about what ever they do and gentlemen to the fullest. Just when i thought I wanted to be single. 

AHHH!story of my life.  

But the reality is that I have decided that I will live each day at a time and to the fullest. I nor anybody else knows what tomorrow holds. So, whats the point of trying to stress and think about what  may happen manana (tomorrow)? 

I am going to strive for happiness at all times, to follow the beat of my heart , to jump and take risk when I need to and to move on when there is no longer a need for me to be there. 

Had my share of broken hearts, been lied and cheated on , back stabbed and betrayed by friends but still i won't hold no punches. Because what goes around is surely to come back around. Its not my place to get revenge. 

Just being me thats all I can do....take me as I am. 

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08-Feb-2010 another day in my life.

This morning was not fun because my car was buried in snow and apparently my school does not assist with shoveling. Therefore I had to miss work and couldn't go back to sleep. Ugh! I attempted to study today since i had no class but that didn't work out too well either. I just watched Dirty Dancing and any other movie that was on. I have come to find out that watching t.v is pretty boring and 'thank' my parents for not allowing me to watch it when i was younger. ( if i did , i think i would be brain dead) Before i knew it , it was almost 5pm and Lina accompanied me to Target to help me get the things i needed to put together my V-day gift. I am so looking forward to Sunday for my V-day surprise date with Harry . 

AHHHH! Don't know what to wear.....  have to get on that. 

Toured Philly today !

Today , Harry and I finally made it to downtown Philly. By the time we arrived down there we were starving and extremely hungry. So we decided to  go to IHOP where we had the Ultimate breakfast ( three sausages, three bacons strips , hash browns, two eggs and unlimited pancakes) I had 6 pancakes and poor Harry couldn't even get through his.  After that we headed to to Independence Hall were we caught a tour just  in time , walked around the court yard , then  walked across the street to see the Liberty Bell and then to Washington Sq. We took awesome pictures. Since the day was about to be over , because Harry had to get back to New York for work tomorrow. We quickly headed over to the 'Love Park' ( where i have never been) and took a picture by the infamous LOVE statue. As the sun was setting we quickly got some Starbucks and headed to the train station where Harry walked me to my train and said good bye. 

I didn't want the day to end but it will be continued ..... :)

Awesome Weekend!

Pictures from the Snow day!

     

Snowed it.

So , yesterday Harry and I attempted  to go on a mission and head to the city despite there being snow as high as my thighs. We were so excited that we finally made it to the train station on foot and the only ones there , brave enough to come out . HA! funny thing  Harry noticed that there was no foot prints on the ground indicating that people were here catching the train at all. Come to find out all train services were cancelled. :) Therefore, we made our long journey back to my apartment and on the way we decided to play in the snow and make snow angel and this is when i tackled Harry into the ground. In order to regain his 'manly' status he decided to tackle me and make me eat snow.   

Overall it was a good day but since the day was still young we decided the best thing to do now was to sit in bed and watch movies ALL DAY .

We are pros at being BUMS!  

The day Before.

I am so excited right now , its not even funny. My day started off well. Had a science exam and it took me a total of 19 mins to complete it. LOL. Studying the night before completely paid off. :) After that exam I went home to take a nap and then i had to sort of rush to campus for my POLICY class. It can be such a drag and i thought that 4:50pm would never arrive. 

After that Lina and I headed to the Chinese store for some food and did some grocery shopping to stock up on food , just in case we get snowed in. But  that wouldn't be a bad thing ....hehehehe!

My ultimate special gift will be arriving at 8:40pm and I can't wait to have it in my arms. 

Its been so long

Ok , so i have not been on this since Christmas. I am just too busy to be updating this. Right now , I am in the library studying for a science exam tomorrow. Its going well but I am dying to take a bath and relax. Tomorrow I will be sure to update my blog more regularly.